How TV comedies handle death

Resting in peace isn’t the easiest topic to cover.

While TV dramas seem to handle death on a regular basis, TV comedies handle it without consistency.

But how should a show that mostly about making people laugh handle one of the saddest life events?

Two popular sitcoms, “Friends” and “How I Met Your Mother,” went from one end of the spectrum to the other.

Two of the deaths on “Friends” were played for laughs. In TOW Nana Dies Twice, Ross and Monica’s grandmother is thought to be dead, but she has one last breath at the hospital, freaking out the siblings. At the burial, Ross falls into a gravesite. Yikes.

When Phoebe’s grandmother dies, 3-D glasses are passed out at the funeral. And later, her ashes are still in her taxi cab when Joey drives to Vegas. What?

The laughs went a little too far into an unrealistic, overly silly concept in both episodes.

On the other side, there’s “How I Met Your Mother,” which I think has one of the saddest deaths on a TV comedy.

When Marshall’s dad dies, it’s revealed at the end of the episode. Just when Marshall finds out they don’t have anything to worry about with infertility, Lily breaks the news about his father.

On IMDb, it’s said that actor Jason Segel didn’t know that’s what Alyson Hannigan would say, so his shocked reaction is real. And it’s so raw.

In the following episode, Last Words, Marshall urges his friends to remember the last words they said to their fathers. It really makes you think while showing a major life event and how it can affect friends.

While sitcoms are typically at a heightened reality, on-screen deaths and funerals can benefit from showing multiple emotions. In real life, death can bring laughter and tears.

On “Scrubs,” death is built into the hospital setting. Sometimes it was sad to watch beloved patients pass, and the writers did a great job with J.D.’s narrations commenting on how short life is and how everyone passes. On the hand, sometimes they made a point to make you at least chuckle. There is fantasy sequence where Turk and Carla raise a pumpkin and fret when he/she/it breaks.

It’s a nice balance on a show that’s filled with laughs and medical jargon.

Modern Family” also had its script legs in both sides.

In Goodnight Gracie, the whole crew goes to Florida when Phil’s mother passed. Alex is confused and upset when her grandma, whom she bonded with deeply, leaves only a lighter for her, but by the episode’s conclusion, she discovers that the lighter had a memory and a hidden meaning from her grandmother.

Phil and Claire, on the other hand, awkwardly try (they first claim to be traveling vacuum salespeople) to meet a woman whom Phil’s mom thinks would make a great new partner for her surviving husband.

In season 3, the Dunphys’ neighbor passes, and all Luke wants is his TV. At first, Claire doesn’t think he’s accepted the death (even though she herself couldn’t stop smiling when telling people the neighbor had died), but it turns out it was a memory for him, and Claire calms down.

While these moments may be less memorable, they feel more in tune with the emotions we feel when someone dies.

But hey, that’s not really what sitcoms are for, are they?

 

It’s time to update our family comedies

Modern Family” paved the way on TV, but it’s time to move on.

Modern Family” is airing its ninth season this year, with the tenth season already promised (though that may be the end of the run). All the original kids are in college now, or at least adults. Overall, the comedy has lost its spark. Yes, there’s growth, but it’s the same rag-tag group of humans trying to make life work with semi-similar storylines.

It’s not that funny anymore, either. Sure there’s an occasional chuckle, but the laugh-out-loud jokes are gone.

When it premiered, “Modern Family” was filled with promise. And it’s had great moments. It didn’t when 5 Emmys for best comedy (in a row, by the way), though it hasn’t won best comedy since 2014.

The TV landscape has changed, and “Modern Family” isn’t the only show focused on a so-called modern family anymore.

On ABC alone, the same network on which “Modern Family” airs, you’ve got “blackish” and “Fresh Off the Boat,” which yes, show some amount of traditional family structure, but also showcase other culture in a positive way.

Then there’s “Transparent.” “Grace and Frankie.” Even “Mom” and “This is Us” in some ways. TV now portrays all different types of families…many types of sexualities, races, cultures…we’re getting to a great time when you can see way more than white people on TV, and it’s not all stereotypes.

We just need to keep moving. (AKA not another “The New Normal,” a terrible show that did more harm than good.)

It’s time to show what America looks like now, not 20 years ago. Let’s talk more about families who deal with cyberbullying, foster care, adoption and gender transition. Let’s talk about families who are struggling with the economy, land rights, hate crimes, police brutality, civil rights…you name it, it’s happening in our country.

And let’s show what American looks like in a true yet entertaining way. “Modern Family” gracefully showcases different families in a way that doesn’t shove issues down the viewers’ throats, but rather simply shows it’s a normal part of life in today’s world.

In a TV world where we got “Mad Men,” “Breaking Bad” and even “Scream Queens” (while campy, it was at least different), let’s continue to show progression on the small screen.

Emmys 2017: By the numbers, thoughts on nominations

The Emmy nominations were announced Thursday, July 13,

Let’s take a look at the the top categories:

Lead Actor in a Drama Series

Sterling K. Brown (“This Is Us”), Anthony Hopkins (“Westworld”), Bob Odenkirk (“Better Call Saul”), Matthew Rhys (“The Americans”), Liev Schreiber (“Ray Donovan”), Kevin Spacey (“House of Cards”), Milo Ventimiglia (“This Is Us”)

2: Actors in this category with multiple nominations this year (Rhys and Schrieber)

5: Previous Emmy wins to date across all categories

Lead Actress in a Drama Series

Viola Davis (“How to Get Away with Murder”), Claire Foy (“The Crown”), Elisabeth Moss (“The Handmaid’s Tale”), Keri Russell (“The Americans”), Evan Rachel Wood (“Westworld”), Robin Wright (“House of Cards”)

22: Number of Emmys nominations across all categories among the group to date

1: Previous Emmy win (Viola Davis)

Lead Actor in a Comedy Series

Anthony Anderson (“Black-ish”), Aziz Ansari (“Master of None”), Zach Galifianakis (“Baskets”), Donald Glover (“Atlanta”), William H. Macy (“Shameless”), Jeffrey Tambor (“Transparent”)

2: Number of actors in category who haven’t won an Emmy yet. Glover has never been nominated.

Lead Actress in a Comedy Series

Pamela Adlon (“Better Things”), Tracee Ellis-Ross (“black-ish”), Jane Fonda (“Grace and Frankie”), Lily Tomlin (“Grace and Frankie”), Allison Janney (“Mom”), Ellie Kemper (“Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt”), Julia Louis-Dreyfus (“Veep”)

24: Emmy nominations for one actress to date across all categories (Tomlin…Louis-Dreyfus has 23.)

Best Drama Series

“Better Call Saul” (AMC), “The Crown” (Netflix), “The Handmaid’s Tale” (Hulu), “House of Cards” (Netflix), “Stranger Things” (Netflix), “This Is Us” (NBC), “Westworld” (HBO)

5: New shows nominated this year. “House of Cards” and “Better Call Saul” have previous nominations.

Best Comedy Series

“Atlanta” (FX), “Black-ish” (ABC), “Master of None” (Netflix), “Modern Family” (ABC), “Silicon Valley” (HBO), “Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt” (Netflix), “Veep” (HBO)

22: Previous wins across all categories for “Modern Family”

1: New show in the nominations (“Atlanta”)

3 thoughts on the nominations:

-As much as Mandy Moore’s character isn’t my favorite on “This Is Us,” I was surprised she wasn’t nominated. And you know Milo and Sterling will split the votes in that category.

-How is “Modern Family” still getting nominated? It still has good episodes, but overall it’s gone downhill. Also there are seven shows up for best comedy, which seems to be way too many.

-There are always snubs, but “Gilmore Girls: A Year in the Life” has popped up on some snub lists. Frankly, the show wasn’t good. The acting wasn’t at its peak and some of the writing was so fluff. It was entered in the limited series category, which seemed like a good choice given its revival run, but I’m OK with it not being nominated.

The 69th Emmys will air on Sunday, Sept. 17, on CBS.

In honor of Father’s Day, the best TV dads are…

This blog was originally published on elkharttruth.com on June 13, 2014.

Since I picked the best TV moms for Mother’s Day, it’s only fair I pick the best TV dads for Father’s Day.

My top picks are:

Dr. Heathcliff Huxtable, “The Cosby Show

Not only was this a breakthrough show for African-Americans on TV, it featured one great dad. He’s so great, in fact, he’s No. 1 on the “50 Greatest TV Dads of All Time” list by TV Week.

Dr. Huxtable knew how to be tough, but he could always make his kids laugh.

He poked fun at his kids too, especially his son, Theo, including the time when Theo begged to get his ear pierced.

All fun aside, he taught his children how to love and how to grow.

Danny Tanner, Jesse Katsopolis and Joey Gladstone, “Full House

With this ’90s sitcom, it was impossible to pick just one of these three “dads.”

Danny was the biological dad, Jesse was the uncle and Joey was the lifelong friend. They all took care of Danny’s three children when his wife died.

Danny needed Joey and Jesse. He needed support.

The trio worked together, balancing each other out.

Phil Dunphy, “Modern Family

Phil might not know how to be the best dad, but he tries.

And he tries with flair.

He’s not afraid to be a dork or to be vulnerable.

Plus he wants to help, even if it’s in a quirky way. I would love to have his “Phil’s-osophy” book.

Burt Hummel, “Glee

On Glee, it’s crystal clear how much Burt loves his son, Kurt, because of the journey Burt has taken on the show.

Viewers saw him accept his son, who is gay; stand up for his son; and even learn the “Single Ladies” dance as a high school graduation gift.

The scenes Burt and Kurt have together always bring a smile to my face or a tear to my eye.

Other notable fathers include:

Obviously there are many more great TV dads. Let me know your favorites in the comments.

Also, don’t forget to tell the father figure in your life how much you appreciate him.

Mother’s Day 2016: 5 TV moments when moms don’t have it all together

This blog was originally published on elkharttruth.com on May 4, 2016.

While moms are sometimes expected to be superheroes, it’s not always the case.

Moms are only humans, so even they mess up, freak out and/or need help some days.

Here are five moments where TV moms did just that:

RACHEL, “FRIENDS

Episode: The One Where Emma Cries,” season 9

First-time mothers learn a lot as they go. For new mom Rachel, that included letting her daughter sleep.

The day she brings home Emma, her newborn daughter with Ross, Rachel is so enamored that she decides to hold her sleeping baby, which wakes her up.

She should’ve listened to Monica, who’d advised against it. Emma wails for hours, and Rachel can’t figure out how to calm Emma down.

Fortunately she has friends to help, especially Monica, who seems to have the way to make Emma sleep.

 

CLAIRE, “MODERN FAMILY

Episode: “Under Pressure,” season 5

Sometimes a reality check can be good.

Out of the three Dunphy kids on “Modern Family,” Alex is by far the smartest. But she’s also a perfectionist, and SAT prep gets to her so much that she decides to see a therapist after a birthday meltdown.

On the same episode/day, her mom, Claire, goes to parent-teacher conferences. By the way, Claire is the type of mom who wants her kids to have fun … and maybe didn’t do as well as Alex in school.

While Alex realizes she works so hard to be noticed, Claire realizes Alex’s classes are a lot to handle … and then stresses out in front of teachers.

The mother-daughter pair meet up after the therapy session, and Claire tells Alex how proud of her she is.

 

DJ, “FULLER HOUSE

Episode: “Our Very First Show, Again,” season 1

Raising three kids with someone helping you is hard enough … imagine handling that on your own.

After her husband dies, DJ Fuller has family and friends help her raise her three boys. But they all have other obligations.

When they have a goodbye party and Jesse sings “Forever” to his wife, Rebecca, she tears up a bit.

Then, the next day, she has a sick child, work, a dog who’s about to give birth, and more.

So when she goes to take care of her baby, she talks to him, saying she’s scared and unsure because she doesn’t know how she’ll handle everything.

Little does she know her family and friends, who are about to leave, can hear her through the baby monitor.

Of course, this sets the reboot in motion, as sister Stephanie and best friend Kimmy decide to step up for DJ.

 

KITTY, “THAT ’70S SHOW

Episode: “The Kids Are Alright,” season 6

When Red Foreman has a heart attack, he’s forced to rest and not work.

That means his wife, Kitty, has to pick up the slack. A lot of slack.

While Eric, their son, is preparing to leave town for college, Kitty picks up extra shifts at the hospital to help pay for everything, on top of taking care of her husband and the house.

But once Eric realizes Kitty can’t handle it all — he catches her doing laundry at about midnight because she’s between shifts and it’s the only time she can, and then finds her asleep on laundry — he agrees to stay home to help out.

 

LILY, “HOW I MET YOUR MOTHER

Episode: “Band or DJ?” season 8

While most of “How I Met Your Mother” revolves around Ted and his love life (this episode is no different), there are moments where other characters get some focus.

In this episode, Lily and Marshall are dealing with the struggles of having a newborn, their son Marvin. In this episode, he’s crying … and producing empty diapers.

So Lily takes Ted up to the roof to talk. And she admits she wishes she wasn’t a mom sometimes, and that she hasn’t painted in months because she’s busy taking care of Marvin.

But she pulls through for her son, just like Ted has to move on from Robin. See, it all ties together!

 

So don’t forget to thank you mother or motherly figure in your life this weekend. Happy Mother’s Day!

In support of TV’s supporting characters: Why ‘Manhattan Love Story’ and ‘A to Z’ were doomed TV shows

This blog was originally published on elkharttruth.com on Dec. 28, 2014.

After watching all the new fall TV shows and then seeing a lot of comedies, I came to a conclusion:

If the supporting characters on a TV show are less than desirable, not even good leads can save it.

Cases in point: “A to Z” and “Manhattan Love Story.”

These two comedies were among the first of the 2014 season to be axed (Though “A to Z” is still airing new episodes, production will most likely not continue). And I was not too surprised.

I thought the leads for the shows were endearing. But their friends on the shows were awful.

The lead actress in “Manhattan Love Story” roomed with her college friend and her husband.

And boy, were they obnoxious. The college friend, Amy, was always talking like she knew everything, with a whiny voice, might I add. And her husband, David, was just stupid and loud.

Same sort of problem in “A to Z.” Cristin Milioti (“How I Met Your Mother”) and Ben Feldman (“Mad Men,” “Drop Dead Diva”), the leads, were quirky and entertaining.

But both characters had best friends who were archetypes. The girl friend was desperate for love and the guy friend was a player.

It’s 2014, almost 2015. TV viewers are smart — they are beyond watching stereotyped characters. It’s boring, uninteresting and a waste of time.

Not every show can be an ensemble show like “Friends” or “Modern Family,” where every character has enough of a story line each episode to give them purpose.

But shows should not have useless characters that only add frustration instead of enjoyment to a TV program.

Think “Breaking Bad” or “The Big Bang Theory.” Those shows have obvious lead and supporting actors. But you’re invested in every character no matter how many minutes they are on your TV screen.

A smart show needs smart characters. And only smart shows will survive.

I get that comedies are hard to write because it’s difficult to be funny. But it can be done. And we don’t need to bog down with dramas. We need to laugh, too.

Valentine’s Day 2015: 5 TV episodes celebrating the holiday

This blog was originally published on elkharttruth.com on Feb. 10, 2015.

Love is in the air. Or not.

Whether you’re single and ready to mingle or hopelessly in love, here are five Valentine’s Day-themed TV episodes you can enjoy.

Desperation Day: “How I Met Your Mother,” season 6

Oh, Barney. Always searching for what’s easy.

Barney refuses to have a Valentine’s Day date, but that doesn’t mean he can’t find a “victim” on Desperation Day, aka Feb. 13.

Lily struggles to get Marshall to care about their relationship after the death of his father. In the end, he pulls through for his Lilypad.

My Funky Valentine: “Modern Family,” season 1

Phil and Claire aren’t always the most adventurous, so to mix things up, they create fake personas.

But things go awry when Claire’s overcoat gets stuck in the escalator, and everyone, including her father, sees.

The One with the Candy Hearts: “Friends,” season 1

In a lot of moments of this beloved show, Ross can’t seem to catch in break.

In this episode, he ends up on a date at the same restaurant as Carol and Susan, his (first) ex-wife and her partner. Awkward.

Chandler ends up on a blind date with Janice, the woman he can’t seem to shake off. Also awkward.

Phoebe, Monica and Rachel burn mementos of ex-boyfriends. Not awkward, just super funny.

First Date: “That ’70s Show,” season 1

After a bit of back and forth, it seems like Donna and Eric will finally get together.

But this is TV, so of course, there’s a hitch. And his name is Hyde.

It’s an episode featuring young love and the nervousness that comes with it.

Silly Love Songs: “Glee,” season 2

Back when “Glee” was still good, this episode featured the right amount of cheesiness, heartbreak and sappy songs.

Puck tries to woo a girl by singing “Fat Bottomed Girls,” and we get to see Artie and Mike channel Michael Jackson with “P.Y.T.”

The episode will leave you saying, “Awww.”

Golden Globes 2015: Some surprises in TV nominations

This blog was originally published on elkharttruth.com on Jan. 6, 2015. The 2017 Golden Globes air Sunday, Jan. 8, on NBC.

If you’ve heard any buzz about a TV show, there’s a good chance it was nominated for a Golden Globe.

The Golden Globe nominations were announced Dec. 11, and most of the obvious choices were present.

The Emmy winners weren’t much of a shock, and with this list of nominees, it’s doubtful the Golden Globes, hosted for a third time by Tina Fey and Amy Poehler, will be much different.

That said, there are some surprises, such as:

CW IS ON THE LIST … BECAUSE OF ‘JANE THE VIRGIN’

Blah, blah, blah, Gina Rodriguez is a star. I’m so sick of hearing that — it’s such a broken record.

Yes, she’s talented. But I still don’t get why the show is so beloved. The premise for “Jane the Virgin” is absurd, reading more like a soap opera/crime procedural than the next “Ugly Betty.”

The Flash” is a much better show and its effects are worth an award.

Also of note is the fact that it’s the first time the CW has been in the nominations.

‘THE BIG BANG THEORY,’ ‘MODERN FAMILY’ OUT

Nominated year after year, these two sitcoms are out of the running, as a show and for the actors.

Modern Family” won a record-tying fifth Emmy in 2014. All of the adult leads have been nominated for an Emmy, and Eric Stonestreet and Sofia Vergara have Golden Globe nominations. Jim Parsons won a Golden Globe for playing Sheldon Cooper on “The Big Bang Theory” in 2011 and has won four Emmys for the role.

I’m not saying they have to be nominated, or that they deserve to be, but it’s a surprise not to see them on the list.

TATIANA MASLANY CAN’T CATCH A BREAK

I don’t know what it will take for Tatiana Maslany to get any award nominations, but she plays how many characters on “Orphan Black”?

With all those personalities, she should be honored.

The Golden Globes air Sunday, Jan. 11, on NBC. My early predictions? Look for “Transparent,” “The Affair” and “Fargo” to be big winners.

Top 5 Thanksgiving-themed TV episodes

This blog was originally published on elkharttruth.com on Nov. 24, 2014.

Holidays tend to bring out funny stories, both in real life and on screen.

So before you stuff your face with turkey, cranberry sauce and pumpkin pie, check out my top five Thanksgiving-themed TV episodes.

5. Thank You: “That ’70s Show,” season 5

Eric Foreman (Topher Grace) never ceases to screw up a situation.

After getting promoted to the adults’ table at Thanksgiving, Eric decides it’s time to tell his parents that he and Donna (Laura Prepon) are engaged.

But then Kelso (Ashton Kutcher) brings a date to the holiday dinner: Eric’s math teacher. By the way, Eric is failing math.

It’s a recipe for a holiday meal gone wrong.

4. Punkin Chunkin: “Modern Family,” season 3

The fun of “Modern Family” is that the families are filled with misfit individuals, and this episode highlights that fact.

The “Dreamers” and the “Pritchetts” is how this episode divides the parents, who then partake in a punkin chunkin challenge.

Watching them launch pumpkins is pretty incredible, but watching them bond is even better.

3. Slapsgiving: “How I Met Your Mother,” season 3

Major Buzzkill! A slap countdown! What more could you want from this show?

Robin and Ted are always confused about where they stand in their relationship/friendship (which makes more sense if you know that they end up together in the end), and this episode is no different.

But in the end of the episode (after a guys vs. girls debate about what to do), they remain friends as they continue to connect with an inside joke (saluting while saying “Major Buzzkill”)

And who could forget the slap countdown Marshall made for Barney? Lilly almost stops it from happening, but in the end, Barney got too cocky, of course.

2. The One with the Thanksgiving Flashbacks: “Friends,” season 5

It’s hard to choose just one Thanksgiving-themed episode from “Friends,” since there is one in every season except for season 2.

This is the one where the gang recalls their worst Thanksgivings, including the time when Chandler (who is secretly dating Monica at this point) called Monica (Courtney Cox) fat when he went to the Gellars’ house with his roommate, Ross (David Schwimmer).

At the end of the episode, Chandler (Matthew Perry) tells Monica “I love you” for the first time … as she wears a turkey on her head.

The flashbacks provide entertainment, but the “I love you” moment provides a sweet and hilarious moment.

1. A Deep Fried Korean Thanksgiving: “Gilmore Girls,” season 3

For one, Sookie (Melissa McCarthy) drinks way too much in this episode since her husband’s family decided to deep fry everything, including the turkey. And she’s one funny drunk.

Next, we see the beginnings of Rory (Alexis Bledel) and Jess (Milo Ventimiglia), including the town members making fun of them for a “weak” kiss.

And of course, Lorelai (Lauren Graham) and Rory, not wanting to disappoint anyone, go to four Thanksgiving dinners. But really, who could handle that better than this mother-daughter duo?

What are your favorite Thanksgiving TV episodes?

CBS’ ‘Mom’ shows the crazy side of family life

This blog was originally published on elkharttruth.com on May 7, 2015, in honor of Mother’s Day. Season 4 of “Mom” premieres at 9 p.m. tonight.

Why do so many TV shows portray messy yet perfect families?

Even “Modern Family,” arguably one of the more realistic family sitcoms in the last 10 years, has happy endings every week.

The old saying is don’t go to bed angry, but is that reality? Not for all.

But “Mom” is different. It shows ups and downs and everything in between. And even though it’s a comedy, some episodes end with sad or frustrated characters.

The CBS show focuses on a three-generation family struggling to survive after the mother, Christy (Anna Faris) and grandmother Bonnie (Allison Janney), finally get sober. Its season two finale aired April 30, and the show was renewed for season three in March.

The former alcoholics are by no means perfect; in fact, they are far from it. They aren’t role models, but they’re trying.

On “Mom,” Christy’s daughter Violet (Sadie Calvano) is hostile toward her family because the two mothers are former alcoholics. Violet had a baby, which she gave up for adoption to give the child a better life, in season 1, and while Christy and Bonnie supported her, she struggled to move on in life. Then, Violet got engaged to an older professor in season 2, much to Christy and Bonnie’s dismay. They want better for Violet, but they haven’t provided enough reason to prove what’s better.

Christy’s son Roscoe (Blake Garrett Rosenthal) decides to live with his dad, who has turned his life around, at the end of season 2, which breaks Christy’s heart after she tried to turn her own life around by going back to school and getting a promotion at work.

Bonnie falls off the sobriety wagon after taking painkillers for a back injury, causing a riff between her and Christy, who celebrated two years of sobriety at the end of season 2.

They’re a broken and exhausted family. But the show provides laughter and heart as the family continues on in life.

They may yell or fight, but with love and support from friends (featuring Octavia Spencer and Jaime Pressly), they remember they are family, and continue to work through life’s challenges together.

So on Mother’s Day, even though it’s not easy, it’s important to remember that no one, not even your mother, is perfect.